Ever find yourself weighed down by what Heather and I call the Facebook Blues? You know, it’s that sensation you get when you click that blue square in hopes of securing information and connections, but what you really find are posts that bring on relentless waves of anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. Whew. How does one social media outlet possess such power?
The answer is simple: we allow it. It’s estimated that there are 1.65 billion Facebook users per month. Factor in the number of times per day that people check Facebook, and that adds up to a helluva lot of information that unfortunately, can affect a person’s mental health.
I know from experience that reading Facebook posts can set off a chain reaction of emotions. When we compare ourselves to seemingly perfect images and reports of flawless outings, it can make us feel somewhat defeated. For me, scrolling through Facebook can be a form of torture; I can easily be convinced that my children are the only ones on the planet that throw fits at the zoo.
And then my mood plummets toward that irrational place that reminds me I’m failing as a parent. In every way of course.
Really, Facebook is like Pinterest except that the projects are replaced by people. And if you think about how frustrated we all feel when a Pinterest attempt goes off the rails, imagine how crazy it can make us when we compare our days to what is portrayed on Facebook posts.
By the way, portrayed is the operative word here. Someone once told me that people who use Facebook to post large amounts of info about their relationships are usually the ones having the most problems with those relationships. I doubt we should take that as a hard and fast rule, but it’s certainly worth remembering that the perfection posted on Facebook may not be as perfect as it looks.
We don’t have anything against Facebook posters and we even join their ranks now and then. Our point is this: Facebook has the power inflict the “Facebook Blues” only on those that allow it. Accept that it’s perfectly fine to unfriend and unfollow (do you really need 624 friends anyway?) and consider quitting Facebook altogether if you find that your mood is negatively affected on a regular basis.
Remember, the world turned just fine before Facebook and it will keep turning without it.
BTW, Twitter is our preferred type of social media outreach; we find it’s a lot more positive. Click here to check out our feed.